You keep ending up in the same place.

Different people. Different circumstances. Same exhausting dynamic. And you know it — you can feel it happening even as it's happening. That pattern isn't random. It's telling you something. And it started long before the last relationship that hurt you.

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What I'm actually looking at

"When someone keeps ending up in the same relationship, I'm looking for themes and patterns. I'm looking at their early attachment relationships — the consistency of those first bonds, and how all of that is showing up today."

Your attachment style isn't a flaw or a diagnosis. It's a map your nervous system drew from the earliest relationships you had. It made sense then. And right now, it's running the show in your adult relationships — often without your awareness.

What we do together is trace those patterns back to where they started, understand what they were trying to do for you, and figure out what it looks like to make choices that are more intentional — so your relationships can actually feel more like what you want them to feel like.

What this can look like

The pattern makes sense. That's actually the point.

The way you move through relationships wasn't random — it was learned. Usually early. Usually in response to something real.

The anxious reach

Seeking reassurance, reading into silence, bracing for people to leave — even when nothing's wrong.

The avoidant wall

Wanting closeness and pulling back when it gets real. Feeling safer alone than vulnerable with someone.

The chronic over-giving

Showing up completely for everyone and quietly keeping track of who doesn't do the same.

The familiar stranger

Noticing you keep choosing the same kind of person — or becoming a version of yourself you don't recognize.

"The therapeutic relationship itself is part of how this works. How you show up with me — what you share, what you hold back, what you notice between us — that's all information. And we use it."

— Tyler Ricks, LPC-Associate

My approach

Attachment work is relational work — which means it can't just happen in theory. I draw from psychodynamic and relational frameworks to understand the deeper architecture of your attachment patterns. And I use AEDP and NARM to work with those patterns experientially, in real time, in your body and in our relationship. That's where lasting change actually happens.

Psychodynamic AEDP NARM Relational Depth-oriented

Real questions

Before we start.

I'm not in a relationship right now. Can I still work on this?

Absolutely. Attachment patterns live in you — they don't require a partner to work on. Some of the most meaningful attachment work happens outside of a relationship, when there's space to look at the patterns clearly without the noise of an active dynamic.

I know my patterns. Why can't I just change them?

Because insight alone isn't enough — and this is one of the most important things I can tell you. Attachment patterns are wired at the nervous system level. They operate below conscious thought. Knowing why you do something doesn't automatically change it. That's exactly where experiential, body-based work comes in.

Do you do couples therapy?

I don't. My practice is individual therapy for women. That said, individual attachment work often has a profound ripple effect on your relationships — understanding yourself changes how you show up with others.

Do you take insurance?

I'm private pay. I can provide superbills for out-of-network reimbursement and accept HSA and FSA. Full details on the Work With Me page.

The pattern can change.

Understanding where it comes from is the beginning.
A free consultation is a low-pressure way to start that conversation.

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Virtual across Texas · $125/session · Sliding scale available