People-Pleasing & Self-Worth Therapy for Women in Texas | Therapy With Tyler
People-Pleasing & Self-Worth · Texas
for the woman who holds everyone else together

People-pleasing is trying to keep you safe.

That's what I want you to hear first. It's not a character flaw. It's not weakness. It's a strategy — one that made complete sense once, and one that's probably costing you more than you realize now. The work isn't about fixing something broken. It's about learning what it looks like to pick yourself.

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What's actually going on
"People-pleasing is about thinking you can anticipate someone else's reactions by trying to please them — and maybe you can. But it's not always true. And it's exhausting to live that way."

The logic underneath it makes sense: if I can manage how you feel about me, I'll be okay. If I can stay one step ahead of your disappointment, your anger, your withdrawal — I'll be safe. That logic usually came from somewhere real. Often from caregivers who were inconsistent, whose moods you had to track and manage, whose needs you learned to hold before your own.

You learned to regulate them. And in doing that, you learned to lose track of yourself.

What we work on together

Learning what it looks like to pick yourself.

Not in a selfish way. Not in a "burn it all down" way. In a way that's sustainable — where your needs get to exist alongside everyone else's.

The yes you don't mean

Understanding what's driving it — fear, habit, the belief that your no will cost you something real.

The resentment underneath

What builds up when you keep giving and no one notices. And why it's hard to even let yourself feel it.

Tracking your own needs

Learning to notice what you actually want — which is harder than it sounds when you've spent years not asking.

Self-compassion as practice

Not as a concept, but as something we build slowly, in the relationship between us, in real time.

"Self-care isn't a buzzword in my practice — it's woven into the work itself. Learning to have your own needs, to be cared for without having to earn it first, to take up space without apologizing. That's a fundamental part of what we're building."

— Tyler Ricks, LPC-Associate
My approach

I work psychodynamically — which means we look at where these patterns came from, not just what they cost you now. I draw from AEDP and NARM to work with the nervous system directly, because people-pleasing isn't just a thought pattern. It's wired in. It lives in the body. And that's where real change happens.

Psychodynamic AEDP NARM Relational Self-compassion
Real questions

Before we start.

I'm worried I'll feel selfish for focusing on myself.
That feeling makes complete sense — and it's actually one of the first things we'll look at together. The belief that having your own needs is selfish didn't come from nowhere. Understanding where it came from is part of how it loosens its grip.
What if I don't even know what I want anymore?
That's one of the most common things I hear — and it's not a problem to solve before we start. Figuring out what you actually want, underneath all the performing and managing and accommodating, is part of the work itself. We start from where you are.
Do you take insurance?
I'm private pay. Superbills available for out-of-network reimbursement, and I accept HSA and FSA. Full details on the Work With Me page.

You've taken care of everyone else.
It's your turn.

A free 15-minute call — just a real conversation
about where you are and whether this feels like a fit.

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Virtual across Texas · $125/session · Sliding scale available